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New book guides readers in strengthening their relationships —
and its easier than we’ve been lead to believe

“Getting your relationship emotionally fit requires doing something about it on a regular basis. With physical exercise, the more we do, the easier it gets, and emotional fitness works the same way. ”

— Dr. Barton Goldsmith

Just as you cannot wake up one morning and decide to run a marathon in the afternoon, you cannot expect your relationship with your spouse or partner to remain in peak form without daily effort on your part to keep it that way. But who has time? Well, it as it turns out, keeping your relationship in shape can take less time each day than it takes to shave or apply make up.

Emotional Fitness and Intimacy...

How do you overcome your partner’s fear of intimacy? Someone who, everytime the relationship takes a step forward, finds a way to sabotage it? “When people who fear intimacy do find someone who might actually make a good partner,” Dr. Goldsmith says, “they find some way to hurt them or push them away. [But] Running away from intimacy does not set us free. It controls us.” Emotional Fitness For Couples addresses the issue of intimacy in Part 2 (Chapters 7-15).

... And Sex...

According to Dr. Goldsmith “sex is an all day affair.” Sounds like a popular enough idea, but what he means is that affection and intimacy must be exchanged throughout the day — it’s not just about sex. Part 3 of the book explores exactly what goes into a sexually and emotionally satisfying love life, including creativity, communication, and respect forboundaries.

Some Tips to Reinspire Your Sex Life from Emotional Fitness For Couples

*Act Sexy & You’ll Feel Sexy
Play the part by setting the scene with candle-light and soft music, softer words, lingerie, and great smells.

*Make Your Bedroom A Romantic Hideaway.
Get some silk sheets and soft lights.Having a place to go when the feelings come over you is important to keeping romance alive.

*Talk About Sex
Conversations about love may be one of the most underrated aphrodisiacs.

*Be Creative
Relive your first encounter, kidnap your partner for a weekend getaway-there are so many different ways to be sexy...It’s really hard to do it wrong.

... And More!

Emotional Fitness For Couples also provides tips on inner happiness, dealing with the outside world, anger, hurt, and effective communication. This book offers a step-by-step program that anyone
can use to hone his or her relationship skills to championship levels!

Raves For Dr. Barton Goldsmith

“This book has some very good ideas on how couples can stop their anger at each other and live more
successfully together.”

—Albert Ellis, Ph.D., noted psychologist
and author of A Guide to Rational Living
“Bull’s-eye! Like a Zen archer, Barton Goldsmith releases an arrow into the very center of intimacy. And
like a Zen monk he writes with a disarming charm and graceful elegance, creating a book that is fun,
funny, yet penetratingly wise. My advice is simple—Read it.”

—Shawn Christopher Shea, MD, author of Happiness Is and
Psychiatric Interviewing: the Art of Understanding
“Goldsmith is the BEST natural born therapist I have ever met. I thoroughly enjoy working with him.”

—David Viscott, MD, TV and radio talk show host
and author of The Making of a Psychiatrist
“I can HONESTLY say that Goldsmiths’s book is outstanding—a really terrific combination of good
bedside manner, useful and practical information, and common sense.”

—Anne Sheffield, award-winning author of
Depression Fallout and How You Can Survive When They’re Depressed
“At last a book that not only guides the reader when it comes to successful relationships but shows us
the value of emotional fitness: communication, nurturance and constancy, in partnering. By subscribing
to Goldsmith’s theory and practice, couples will end up with a more satisfying connection and a better sense of each other’s needs, as well as their own.”

—Susan Shapiro Barash, author of
The New Wife: The Evolving Role of the American Wife

“Love is all you need—but, you also need a well-written, easy-to-follow roadmap to the heartland.
Renown relationship guru Barton Goldsmith has provided this map in Emotional Fitness. It is your guidebook to revitalizing your relationship.”

—Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D., director of the
Milton Erickson Foundation and organizer of
the Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference
“In Emotional Fitness for Couples, Goldsmith helps couples become proactive in their relationships by
using easy to follow exercises and practical advice that allows them to enhance their interactions and Raves For Dr. Barton Goldsmith their love.”

—Gerald G. Jampolsky, MD, author of
Love Is Letting Go of Fear

Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., has twenty years’ experience as a therapist. The author of a weekly newspaper column with the Scripps Howard News Service, Dr. Goldsmith hosts weekly Los Angeles-area radio shows on NPR station KCLUFM. Dr. Goldsmith regularly gives workshops to the public and maintains the Emotional Fitness E-Newsletter, with a readership of 35,000. He lives in the Los Angeles area with the love of his life and a narcissistic black cat.


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Emotional Fitness For Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship
by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. ISBN: 1-57224-439-9, $14.95, Published in February 2006
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